The beautiful lady in the blue beads and no makeup is me. But this other beautiful woman in the wine blouse is Ericka, my sister, my best friend, my heart. She is my ‘Person of the Month’! You see, we haven’t always been besties. In fact she hated me, for years, because I’m cuter. lol. No, that wasn’t the real reason. She was the oldest and I was the baby and apparently I was spoiled, although I don’t believe that. We are 9 years apart so while growing up she was far ahead of me. Then religion separated us and she didn’t talk to me for years. She was married and deep in the religion while I was rebellious.
Her first marriage ended tragically. Her second husband was abusive, and she was kept isolated. Eventually she broke free from that marriage and who was there for her? Me! And we’ve been inseparable ever since. Although she didn’t speak to me, or come to my first wedding, or see my eldest son’s birth, she is still my family. And I will always be there for my immediate family, no matter what.
One of the reason that I love her so much is because of the type of person she is. She is the type to live vicariously through other peoples happiness without envy or jeolousy. Whenever I have good news, or something that I am excited about, I can’t wait to tell her because I know she will be happy for me. Then she will say, “When are we going to get a drink to celebrate?” For example, when I was offered the job overseas, she was sad, but she saw the brighter side of the adventure and how it could benefit her as a place she could now come to visit.
By the way, she is single now. I live single life through her, and she lives married life through me. We call each other with stories from each life, so we both benefit from each.
She has taught me not to take everything so seriously, especially when it comes to the kids, because everything isn’t the end of the world.
I hope she finds “that guy” one day, who will provide for her, protect her and profess his love for her, like she deserves. I also hope he can cook, because she can’t. lol.
I love you Big Sis with all my heart!